Filling Your Cups: Self-Care and the Chakras, Part 5

Self-Care for the Fifth Chakra:
Listen and Be Heard

The Fifth Chakra holds the energy and issues surrounding Communication. Often you’ll hear the term speaking your truth, when referring to the Fifth Chakra. While that is a very important part of this energy center, listening, really paying attention to what someone is communicating (as well as paying attention to what they aren’t saying, and the feeling tone of those words) is just as an important part of this soul center or chakra. Good communication is made up of the two: Expressing (speaking, typing, writing, etc.) and Receiving the nuances of communication (listening, reading, etc.).

Communication can be challenging. Public speaking is very common deeply-held fear for the majority of people. Speaking to someone about feelings can be very scary at times. Ghosting is real… sometimes people would rather just disappear than to say (or even text) “I don’t want to interact with you anymore” and face challenging communication and feelings.  Addressing loaded topics, finding the strength and courage to speak about something important to you, or finding the right worlds can be very difficult.  It can also be challenging to listen to things that one doesn’t want to hear.  It can be challenging, for some, to listen at all.  It requires presence and much more.  Many people are usually skilled more at speaking or listening.  Which is easier for you? While some of these things may come naturally, you will most likely find there is always room to grow.  It is now so much more common to text, social media chat or communicate in a way that isn’t in person.  What does that tell us about society’s willingness and ability to interface with emotions?

Self-care for this chakra is a really important one.  The physical and energetic area associated with this chakra is the throat, neck, and jaw and I find it encompasses the ears.  Physical tension, pain, and other issues in these areas may point to issues on an energetic level with this chakra.

Think first, speak (or type) second is always a good rule. It can be a hard one to live by in the heat of the moment.

To be able to really speak one’s truth in a way that is compassionate and not reactive, one has to truly know what they think and what they we feel.  With the busyness of our world, even moments when life might offer an opportunity to go inward to check-in with yourself, the habitual temptation is usually to instead connect outward with the world through technology, i.e. look at one’s phone at social media, the news, texts, listen to music – anything other than be still and listen within.  When is there time to even consult one’s own mind or heart to know that something might be bothering you, or why that is?  To take even a moment for yourself, to tune-in to yourself is something that requires conscious effort.  It is a shifting of gears and direction to hone your senses and energy inward instead of outward.  Wanting to make that effort, requires seeing the value in consulting yourself, of “friending” yourself.

The self-care strategy (or reminder) I offer is a simple, powerful one, but like all things, it takes practice (and some days will be easier than others).

Take some time to listen to your own body, mind, heart and soul in a way that works for you.

  • Go for a stroll alone

  • Meditate

  • Journal

  • Sit and linger over a cup of coffee or tea and stare into space

  • Talk out loud to yourself while you’re alone (no one has to know!) and actually answer yourself out loud – you might be surprised by your answers!

    Consulting yourself about your “truth” – what you think and how you feel about something BEFORE YOU COMMUNICATE ABOUT IT is especially great self-care for the 5th chakra especially when you know something is bothering you, but you don’t know why that is. Communicate with yourself.  You have the answers. When you do, it will be much easier to speak (or text or type) from your heart with clarity about something important to you, rather than react in a way you don’t feel so good about later.

Guiding Questions

Simply have a conversation with yourself. It might sound crazy, but try it!

Here are some sample questions that you can choose from.

Hi love! (or some other affectionate, kind thing you can call yourself)

How are you today?

What’s on your mind?

How are you feeling?

         In general, or

        About ___________

        About my relationship with _____________

        About my this upcoming event _______________

        About this thing I keep thinking about ____________

        About that dream that is still lingering in my head

        About that conversation that I had and what I said

        About the song I have stuck in my head

        About this issue ___________

The feelings and other things that linger are clues that you are giving yourself. There is usually something deeper there to explore.

Please keep in mind that feelings are nuanced. You might feel proud of yourself and scared, or happy and also sad (bittersweet), or excited and afraid.  Allow there to be layers, even if they seemingly contradict each other.

Then ask – What would you like to do about that, if anything?

NOTE: If you come up with answers that you don’t like, or you are having a hard time coming up with a solution – a few things may be happening.

  1. Your nervous system may be activated (Fight and Flight, tense, anxious) and you may need to relax more about the topic before you can consult the deeper wisdom underneath that.

    1. If that is so: you may need to do something to relax more about it like:

      1. Something grounding: like taking a walk outside, deep breathing, a guided meditation, taking a bath, listening to relaxing music, getting someone to massage your feet (or do it yourself), or getting some body work

      2. Interrupt the feeling by focusing on something happy, funny, peaceful, or doing something else and coming back to it later

      3. Do something active – sweat it out so you can think more clearly

      4. Work with someone who can hold the space for you and guide you through it: counseling, bodywork, a session with me, etc.

  2. You might not have the answer yet. But if you ask yourself a question, you will be seeking those answers on a deep level. The answer will come to you in time.

If you have any questions, I’m here to help!

The 5th Chakra, like all of the rest can hold residue from past experiences, limiting belief systems, blocks, leaks, and other energetic issues that are unique to you.  I can help you to understand these patterns and help you to shift them.

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