Self-Care is important ingredient to life, but something that is often neglected especially for people who are parents, caregivers, or have busy lives and put their own needs last. Self-care is about choosing what will give you energy right now, what will fill up your battery, and it is part of regular health maintenance. BUT it doesn’t have to be expensive, time-consuming, or difficult.
Thinking of “self-care” can stir up those “shoulds” in life: I should be taking better care of myself, I should meditate, I should eat better, I should take time to relax … BUT I don’t have the time, money, energy, or see how that is even possible. However self-care can be very personalized for you and doesn’t have to cost a thing. Self-care activities can be active or passive, stimulating or relaxing. It’s all about what you need to feel more balanced, energized, inspired and well-rested. Figuring out what that something is can be the tricky part because what is energizing and rejuvenating for one person can be draining for another. Even for one person, what can be energizing and rejuvenating one day can be draining and exhausting the next.
How do you know if something is truly self-care and not just a guilty pleasure? You’ll based on how you feel afterwards. If you feel uplifted, inspired, feel somehow better about life, then you know it was self-care. If you feel more drained, tired, feel worse about yourself or about life then it probably isn’t self-care. There is nothing wrong with guilty pleasures, as long as you don’t expect them to make you feel better beyond that fleeting moment.
How can you find the Self-Care Activities that will Recharge You?
1. Take 5 minutes a day, when you’re not exhausted, to ask yourself, What am I missing? What would recharge me? When everyone else’s voices and needs at home, at work, and in life take priority, we can forget to listen to our own inner voice and our own needs. Taking some time to ask these questions and to listen to yourself can really help. Your answer may surprise you.
2. When you take that time to ask and listen to yourself to figure out what will recharge your batteries, not just what would be a fleeting guilty pleasure then you are morel likely to FIND THE TIME to do it.
These 2 steps may be enough, but listening to one’s inner voice can be confusing when where are so many other voices and life demands in our heads.
So in the journey to find balance with Self-Care let’s look at the chakras. In this blog post, we’ll start with the first chakra, at the base of the spine. It is our foundation and our root. Without a strong foundation, other pursuits in our life can feel unstable.
Self-Care for the First Chakra
The First Chakra is a ball of energy at the base of our spine, or coccyx, that holds the emotions, beliefs, and vibration of connection to our primary needs: money, food, clothing, shelter. Like Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, at the bottom of the pyramid, there are the basics of survival. If we don’t have our basic needs met, it is difficult to engage in other interests with complete focus. The needs of the first chakra are having “enough” money or currency for fulfilling one’s needs, having a home and maintaining it, organization, safety, physical health, connection to the Earth, and connection to others: family, friends, tribe, nature, animals. (You will find varying opinions on the needs of the First Chakra. This is not a comprehensive list. Please incorporate anything that you know or find not on this list that you connect with).
Self-Care at this level of the first chakra deals with these issues. There are active, stimulating ways to engage in self-care, and passive, relaxing ones. Below are some examples of how you could engage in self-care at the first chakra level.
First Chakra – BE STABLE
Engaging the feeling of Safety – for example: connecting with a loved one who you know has your back, getting a hug, enjoying the feeling of being snuggled up in a comfy place in your home, visualizing and feeling held by a higher power.
Relaxation: rest, take a bath, a stroll, watch the sunset or sunrise, write to a friend, read, journal, listen to your Self, take some quiet time, meditate, lay down, breathe, do yoga, listen to a guided visualization, just Be, etc…
Be with the Earth: smell the roses: i.e. appreciate life, take in the beauty of nature with all of your senses: roll in the grass, smell flowers or the soil, look at beautiful scenes or at pictures of places you’d love to see, pet a dog (cat, horse, etc.), listen to the sounds of nature either in person or recorded (like frogs, birds chirping, the ocean), taste the lovely fruits that the earth provides.
Money: Doing something to balance your financial affairs: making sound financial decisions, budgeting, making a payment on a loan, etc.
Home Maintenance: cleaning, organizing, making systems that make your life easier, yard maintenance, vehicle maintenance, folding laundry, etc.
Physical Health Maintenance: exercise, eating food that feels good for your body, hydrating, grooming and hygiene (check and see if your toenails need clipping!), etc.
Organization: making appointments, figuring out schedules, menu planning, making to-do lists, and checking things off of those lists.
Connecting with the Earth: take a walk outside, garden, hike, bike, play outside, any outdoor activity, put your bare feet on the ground, sit at the roots of and lean on a tree, eat something wild (that you know is safe to eat).
Connecting with others: connect with your people, animals, with the elements.
How easy or difficult is it for your to do self-care for your first chakra? Are some areas easy and others difficult? Do you tend to lean more toward passive or active self-care at this level?
If you find you have a hard time caring for yourself at the First Chakra level, and Akashic Record consultation may be helpful for you. Go to www.lightfilledlife.com to learn more about how an Akashic Records consultation can help change beliefs, energetic blocks, and more, that can help you build a stronger first chakra.
More to come in the next blog about Self-Care and the Second Chakra, the chakra of intimacy, fluidity, and creative ideas.